Situation: A new CEO has been promoted from within the ranks of a small-to-medium sized company. He was told by the board that the promotion was based on exemplary performance and the feeling that he was ready for this responsibility. He’s been with the company for many years and has developed close relationships with co-workers. How will the promotion impact those relationships? What are appropriate social and personal interactions at work?

Advice from the CEOs:

• Consider three cases:
  • Case 1 – Even though two individuals may be friends outside of work, they do not engage as “friends” at work. There is a different role structure at work.
  • Case 2 – Coaching of children as an example: though two individuals have a friendship or close relationship outside of work, for example frequently playing golf or another sport, favoritism should not be shown toward this individual at work. Preserve the veil of trust with the other employees.
  • Case 3 – A CEO often has lunch with employees, but no other social activity outside of work. This individual often expresses a personal interest in others’ families and their families, interests and hobbies. This person takes the time to show that he or she cares about employees.
• Just as was the case between the new CEO and the prior CEO, there is a natural distance between any employee and those individuals who evaluate or review them. The evaluators or reviewers have a power over the employee that prevents them from approaching each other as true peers.
  • Because of this natural barrier, do not try for force social or personal interactions. The best that one can do is to make sure that the others know that the CEO cares about them, has their interests in mind, and shows an interest in their families, interests and hobbies.
  • It is important to take advantage of opportunities to demonstrate an interest in others.
• The person who asked the question mentioned the success of the CFO in building relationships with others in the office. If invited, attend these same functions. Observe and learn from the CFO’s interactions with the others. Model the CFO’s interactions but add your own individuality to this modeling. Most of all, listen actively, and patiently allow the interactions to mature. Don’t force things.

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