Situation: A valuable tool for CEOs is Susan Scott’s book Fierce Conversations. This includes challenging conversations with staff. Scott characterizes Fierce Conversations as being robust, intense, strong, powerful and passionate. These are the traits that a leader must bring to challenging conversations instead of avoiding them. How do you have a fierce conversation?
Advice from the CEOs:
The first step is to master the courage to interrogate reality. This means confronting the difference between “ground truth” or reality and official truth or what we or others wish to believe. There is often a difference between the truth that we want others to see and reality. Jim Collins calls this confronting the brutal facts of our situation without losing faith in our ability to deal with it.
Be here, prepared to be nowhere else. The conversation must be your only point of focus when you are having it. Choose a location where you won’t be interrupted or distracted. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by texts, phone calls or anything else.
Tackle your toughest challenge today – you gain little by putting it off for another day. Prioritize your challenges, and tackle the most difficult ones first. Handling these will make the most difference.
Obey your instincts – but remember that instincts are subjective and must be verified through reality checks. Trust your gut, but verify it objectively with evidence.
Take responsibility for your emotional wake – what he or she will remember after the conversation. Keep the focus on factors that the other party can control, and offer to assist. But be sensitive to how you deliver the message and how the other party responds. Don’t leave more of a mess than you had before the conversation.
Harness the power of silence – silence slows a conversation and increases your chances of making it meaningful.
Situation: A CEO wants to schedule an off-site planning meeting with her top staff. She has heard about the potential efficacy of off-site meetings and is intrigued by the idea of taking her staff away from the office for a day or two to concentrate on planning. She is curious about typical agendas, time frames, objectives and who should be involved in the meetings. How do you plan an off-site meeting?
Advice from the CEOs:
Set the objective of the meeting in advance. Tell everyone involved the objective so that they are thinking about this prior to the meeting.
The staff involved depends on the objective of the meeting. Select participants to fit the need.
Include a team building event. One purpose of off-sites is to help the team or teams get to know each other better and improve collaboration.
Have an agenda for the meeting and meet without interruptions. Have participants notify key customers or contacts in advance, schedule back-up contacts if necessary, and don’t allow interruptions.
Hold the meeting during work hours. Options: one day, local for easy travel and return home; or two days, nice setting, dinner the first day, and late afternoon return home the second day.
Do you need a facilitator? This depends on the goal and organizer’s comfort with the topic of focus.
A speaker or educational component pertinent to the meeting goal.
Breakout and group discussions to think through important issues.
A team-building event.
Some fun – dinner or an evening activity that allows individuals to talk in a relaxed setting.
Examples of effective events:
Broad agenda – What can we do better?
All-hands meeting – prompts contribution by all.
Opportunity for CEO to communicate the company vision and involve employees in the planning process for the coming year or period.